What others are saying about What if God...? and What if Ministries
What if God...? reveals an awesome modern day miracle! Having met this family living through the facade years and seeing first-hand the transformation, not only reveals the vulnerability of each one of us, but also truly demonstrates what a powerful God we have if only we allow Him to be the God of our lives. I applaud the honesty and openness of one family's willingness to share their struggles in order to be a vessel to show others a way of escape if only they are willing to give God a chance. God is waiting to show you what if.
An honor to be a friend,
CM in VA
God blessed me greatly when He allowed me to meet Bobi Naukam. I had the privilege of reading her book several times. I found What if God...? to be such a blessing. Although Bobi shares her story about co-dependency and her husband's addiction to pornography, this book contains truths and insight for all of us. I believe that you will receive a blessing, too, as you read this book.
BJ in OK
I received your book in the mail last week and immediately felt God was answering prayer through your book. I went home and read the book that night and knew this book held powerful answers and insights.
I am a believer in recovery from alcoholism and work as a ministry leader at our church. I have been sponsoring a woman who is codependent with a sexually addicted husband. Although she has been faithful to attend meetings and trying to work the 12 steps, she is still suffering deeply. I believe God sent us your book for her and her husband. I gave her the book, and she has told me so far that she sees herself on every page, and she "gets it."
God bless you and your ministry. You wrote a powerful book and I thank God for your willingness to share your story.
LS in IL
Your book was exactly what I needed to read and re-read. I am going through some very serious times with my son. I know your story will help minister to many.
NA in OK
I want you to know that when I read your "Renewing the Mind" chapter, I cried, because it is exactly what I teach and teach, do and do, and to think - two women with a lot of land between them, studying from God's word and learning from life experience, apply His word and share this sisterhood in common, even with never meeting!! I am so thrilled and encouraged. I feel less alone - as sometimes, you can imagine, my fellow pilgrims think I am being extreme or simplistic when I dare suggest that studying God's word - intensely - is the way to find freedom (along with support groups, godly friends, sound counsel, etc.) So thank you, thank, thank you, and Praise God for an added voice of encouragement, written so well.
TM in VA
"WHERE'S THE BOOK FOR THE WIVES?" I kept asking my respected and widely studied counselor after we had discussed a vast array of abuse issues usually targeted at women: verbal abuse, mental abuse, and emotional abuse, particularly. It seems like there are now sufficient books describing the abuse, books for the abuser to overcome the abuse, and books that encourage women to leave the abuser. BUT WHERE ARE THE BOOKS FOR CHRISTIAN WOMEN WHO DECIDE TO STAY? Not because they are willing to accept things as they are, but because they are willing to trust that God can and will deal with it.
"THIS IS THE BOOK!" was the thought that gripped my mind as I read through the chapters of Bobi Naukam's book "What if God...?" Bobi candidly and humbly shares her wrestling match with God over going or staying; over trying to make things happen, or relinquishing them to the hands of a trustworthy but "invisible" Creator; over maintaining the just right to never trust again, or yielding her broken spirit to the belief that God really had answered her prayers.
Especially precious and poignant are the chapters by her husband Phil as he shares his darkness, his struggle, and eventually his entrance into the light, and the chapter by the children of families who have "survived" the crisis. These are insights many of us never hear or understand, but need.
Thank you, Bobi and families, for your sacrifice of love, that identifies, encourages, and edifies.
HJ in NY
I have prayed for my father's salvation for many years, but was almost losing hope as he was well into retirement. During a weekend visit, I brought along Bobi Naukam's book "What if God...?" and left it on the coffee table to snatch during a "quiet" moment. After noticing that several times when I came through the room, Dad was looking through it, I finally asked him what he found interesting about it. "Oh, you wouldn't understand," was his only reply. Days later, he asked to pray to receive Christ as his Savior. Praise the Lord!
GE in NY
This is the best book I've read since Woman, Thou Art Loosed!!! by T.D Jakes. Every woman should read this book. You are a real inspiration to women everywhere but especially to those trapped in a difficult marriage. Pornography has become such a pervasive and even accepted issue in our society. This book clarifies in an easy to read and understand way the hidden dangers of a sexually permissive society. Continue to get the word out so that people know that there is hope, forgiveness, and healing available.
SR in MO
The Lord totally led me to Bobi's book. It was for sale in our church library, but I had not heard of it before. As soon as I read the title and comments on the back, I knew God wanted me to buy it. I wasn't for sure how it was going to help me with my particular circumstances, though. It ended up helping me in a tremendous way! There is so much valuable information in it no matter what a person is going through. Thank you, Bobi, for following the Lord's direction.
JC in OK
This book is great for every person in every walk of life. Do you have any problems? Check out this book! It has helped me so much.
JN in OK
I loved the book. Any woman who wants to get closer to God must read this book. I am sharing it with all my friends and relatives.
MC in OK
What an encouragement! Bobi's testimony gives me hope for a future that is restored after the devastation of pornography and a confidence that God can take me through anything. Anyone who finds herself in a situation where her husband is involved with pornography should read this book.
WC in OK
Life changing! Encouraging - that's Phil and Bobi Naukam's testimony in a nutshell. Your testimony is moving and made me re-think my relationship with my own wife.
MC in OK
Your openness and honesty have brought tremendous growth, healing, and help to come out of my "self" - to face things in my life that need to be changed or addressed. The knowledge you have gained through your experience has and will change lives. I would recommend reading the book and completing any and all Bible studies Bobi has written because the things within them are life changing, bring new levels of growth and intimacy with God and self, and renew the mind. You can be a whole, new person by implementing the things you learn from What if God...? and the Bible studies - from depression to happiness, low self-esteem to confidence. This has transformed my life.
LP in OK
You have blessed my life. The Bible study on Renewing my Mind is great. I'm learning more about the Holy Spirit and prayer. Getting to know God better and learning to trust people are direct results from the Bible study. Thank you.
KF in OK
Thank you for your well written, easily understood book. My sister gave me a copy last month, and it is changing my life. May God bless you both and continue to use yuour obedience to glorify Him.
ED in MO
It was so encouraging for me to talk with you and your wonderful husband. When he said to me that one reason there is still a problem is that "he hasn't forgiven himself," it blew me away. Nobody has ever told me that before. I would never have thought of it. That knowledge still comforts me. Thank you so much for all of your prayers of agreement for me. I also believe in and expect miracles in my life. I will pray and agree with the two of you for your ministry and family. I expect to hear wonderful testimonies of miracles for you guys.
LW in CA
Your 700 Club interview today (March 29, 2004) was simply wonderful! Thank you for being so open and honest, in order that many others can have hope of overcoming porn's terrible power. May God bless you, protect you, strengthen you, and anoint you as you minister to others.
WO in VA
The Lord has big plans for your ministry. As I read your book, I have been thoroughly enjoying your honesty and openness; laying yourselves open for the sake of others may be humbling but will truly be rewarded. I can still see the gleam in Phil's eyes when we spent time with you in Chesapeake; the offering of forgiveness was so evident on his face and radiated from his spirit. What a pleasure that our paths crossed. Thank you.
GM in VA
What if God...? is an awesome book, Bobi. I liked that it was your version and his version and the peace you found plus what God was saying in between all of it. The "why's," your walk with the Lord. You've been able to understand the why of 30 years, the why of all the pain and be able to put it out and have such victory in the end. Obviously, you heard the voice of God. The most astounding life aspect of this situation is that you knew that you that you knew that you heard God's voice - over 30 years you were hearing God's voice. That has been the biggest impact in knowing. And you held to that. You stood firm even though there was a lot of weeping and there was a lot of tears. You still held firm. Your faith carried you through. Your belief in God Almighty carried you through. It's all spelled out in the book - the struggles; the he said, she said; what you found out; what you felt.
The women can definitely get into the emotions of both sides of the story. It's an emotional book; it's a factual book. It's a book full of reality on the pain that everyone goes through today. It demonstrates the faith that God can bring us through any situation.
DP in FL
When I read Bobi's book, What if God...?, I was really touched by her attitude to look for whatever she could find to be Thankful and Grateful for, when it would have been much easier to gripe, and find fault. I also realized the feelings I was having about not loving my husband, she also had experienced. So I realized I wasn't crazy in all this extreme chaos; someone else had also experienced the same situations. What a relief that was, to know you aren't alone. I would highly recommend the book, to anyone.
JF in OK
It's not often that you are close enough to an authors or a teacher's life to comment on it. I have the privilege of knowing about the issues and struggles of my friends Phil Naukam and his wife Bobi and have seen the power of Jesus bring lasting change accompanied by genuine peace & joy. If you are struggling with addictions or have a loved one that is, Bobi's book, What if God...?, and their ministry can give you hope and practical steps out !
Pastor MT in OK
What if God...? is an awesome and incredible book! I read it six months ago; and after writing this, I feel I want to re-read it to refresh what I've read and to see what maybe I missed the first time around.
Bobi's honesty and openness ministered to me. This is a real book with a real story. Nothing held back and nothing sugar coated. If more Christians would face their challenges head on like this, I believe Christina marriages and families wouldn't be so weak and would be a powerful force against the enemy and for God!
Of course, not everyone should write a book about it, but Bobi exposed her own personal struggles wide open so that God could use it to heal and minister not only her but also to set free others going through their own personal "hell." That courage amazes me.
Although my "stuff" was different from hers, the hurt and the pain and the devastation was the same, and things she shared sounded like the exact feelings and thoughts I had. So close to my own that it was scary! It made me cry... but then God begins the healing.
Thank you for this book. I bought a few copies to share because I know it will minister to and heal many others.
MK in OK
There are many out there who are or have been in bondage to "secret sins." Secret, not to our Heavenly Father, but to those around us. It is very possible to be in deep hurt and to mask it by outward behavior. The ministry of assuring God's beloved that He cares for them, even in their darkest hours, is critical in these last days. Ministries, such as What If Ministries, deserve special recognition and honor. Phil and Bobi Naukam have found the secret of completely trusting in the Lord and His power to sustain their personal walk in the Lord, and additionally, their love for one another. May we, as Bobi and Phil Naukam, ask the Lord to give us divine wisdom as we learn how to "speak a word in season" to the hurting among us. The Holy Spirit will help us with our infirmities and weaknesses if we will let Him. Thank you Phil and Bobi! The Body of Christ thanks you for filling up that which lacked in His Body. God bless you as you continue this critical and worthwhile ministry!
G & C in VA
When I read What if God...? I thought what an awesome way for a non-believer to find out that even Christians struggle. What an awesome way to find out that if you humble yourself enough to ask for God's help and forgiveness, it will be given. How awesome is it that someone will share their tragedy in the hopes that someone else can learn from it.
As people struggle in their lives and with their walk with God, this book gives courage and strength. More Christians need to own up to the fact that there are struggles. We cannot overcome all of them on our own. However, there is hope. If we just learn to ask for God's help and guidance, what stronger Christians we would be.
I feel as though I am a hypocrite since I am not where I want to be with God. As I struggle with my own demons, I realize that there are others like me that have overcome with God's help. This book encouraged me to get my life right with God, my marriage right with my husband, and my relationship right with my family.
JN in OK
Bobi, thank you for writing What if God...? I loved your honesty and transparency. I felt like I was sitting in the room talking with you as I read it, and I learned so much. It was nice to know that I was not alone in the difficulties I was having at the time I read it. The book gave me helpful insight in my time of need, and it definitely helped me have a closer walk with God because I felt as if I had a guidebook to help me cope with the crisis I was experiencing. You gave me hope that I would survive even when I felt like I couldn't take any more pain. Your book and the scriptures quoted inspired me to take responsibility for myself and taught me that I am only in control of myself and my choices. I cannot change anyone else but can choose to let God change me so I can deal with whatever happens. I no longer feel like I am responsible for anybody else's actions - just mine. What a relief that is! What if God...? has taught me more about the Bible and how I can use it to change me and make me a better person. It started me thinking "outside the box" where God is concerned. What if He does care about me enough to want to help me change into His image? I had never thought about God that way before. Thank you for opening my eyes and mind to a new and deeper relationship with Him.
TH in OH
What if God...? is a handbook for Christians to help walk through all kinds of difficulties in life. Bobi's practical steps and transparency will make all those going through a trial know that it's normal to think what they're thinking and feel what they're feeling, but be encouraged that there is a way through the storm. The light that was at the end of (what looked to her like) a totally dark tunnel in Bobi's life can inspire us to hold on and stay God's course in our lives. Bobi can be that friend who points you back to the Lord when you are feeling confused----buy her book so it's there when you need it!
NK in AZ
I started your book yesterday, I'm sorry I haven't read it before now, and it is awesome. I am only to about ch 6 and I've already cried three times! (I am NOT a crier) it has really given me an insight into what my husband struggled with for years, I had never thought about the pain he suffered. It has also really helped me know how to pray for him and do my part in protecting him in this area. thanks!
AG in OH